So, you and your besties are eyeing the same college, huh? You\u2019re probably wondering if that\u2019s a good idea or if it\u2019s going to cause a major friend meltdown. The good news? You\u2019re not alone in worrying about this. Tons of students are in the same boat, and let\u2019s break it down so you don\u2019t have to freak out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
One of the big fears people have is that competing for the same college will mess up their friendships. A student shared, \u201cIt really depends on your relationship with your friends. If you\u2019re all cool and chill about it, there\u2019s no reason it should affect your friendship.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Look, if you and your friends are mature about the process and don\u2019t make it a competition, everything should be fine. You can apply to the same place, support each other, and still stay besties\u2014whether you end up at the same college or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A lot of people assume that colleges will look at them and their friends applying from the same school and think, \u201cWe can only pick one!\u201d<\/em> But that\u2019s not really how it works. Another student pointed out, \u201cColleges don\u2019t really care if people from the same high school apply. They\u2019re just looking at individual applications.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n So, no need to stress about colleges viewing you as a “package deal” or only accepting one of you. Admissions officers are focusing on what you<\/em> bring to the table, not who you hang out with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Okay, let\u2019s be real\u2014this is probably one of the scariest parts. What if your friend gets in and you don\u2019t? That would sting, right? But as one student shared, \u201cIf you can\u2019t be happy for your friends\u2019 success, maybe it\u2019s time to rethink the friendship.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ouch, but also true. It\u2019s important to keep in mind that everyone\u2019s path is different. If your friend gets accepted and you don\u2019t, it\u2019s not the end of the world. There are so many amazing colleges out there, and who knows? You might end up somewhere that\u2019s a better fit for you in the long run.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Let\u2019s say you all do get in\u2014how awesome would that be? You\u2019d already have a solid crew at your new school. One international student shared, \u201cIf you and your friends are really close, it could be nice to have a support system when you start college.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Having familiar faces around while navigating freshman year could make everything a lot easier, from figuring out where your classes are to not feeling super lonely in those first few weeks. But remember, you\u2019ll also make tons of new friends, so don\u2019t feel like you need to stick with your high school crew 24\/7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n At the end of the day, you have to focus on you<\/em> . Another student summed it up perfectly: \u201cDon\u2019t apply to a school just because your friends are. Make sure it\u2019s a good fit for you personally.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Even if your friends are all hyped about a particular college, if you don\u2019t feel it\u2019s right for you, don\u2019t be afraid to go your own way. College is a time for finding yourself, and that sometimes means making decisions independently.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Applying to the same college as your friends doesn\u2019t have to be a stressful, friendship-ending event. If you guys stay supportive of each other and remember that colleges look at you as individuals, not as a group, you\u2019ll be fine. And hey, if you all end up at the same school? That\u2019s just a bonus!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" So, you and your besties are eyeing the same college, huh? 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The “What If They Get In and I Don\u2019t?” Panic<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s Actually Kind of Cool to Have Friends Around<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Do What\u2019s Best for You<\/h4>\n\n\n\n